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Community Guidelines

Community Guidelines

Creating meaningful connections through respect, authenticity, and shared experiences

Welcome to Our Community

TakeMeOutToDinner is more than a platform—it's an exclusive community of exceptional individuals who value genuine connections and memorable experiences. These guidelines help maintain the quality, safety, and integrity of our community.

By joining TakeMeOutToDinner, you commit to upholding these standards and contributing to an environment where everyone can connect authentically and safely.

Our Core Values

Respect

Treat every member with courtesy, kindness, and consideration, regardless of background or perspective.

Authenticity

Be genuine in your interactions and honest in your representation. Real connections start with real people.

Integrity

Honor your commitments, especially dinner reservations. Your word matters in our community.

Excellence

Strive to bring your best self to every interaction and contribute positively to the community experience.

Profile & Representation

Do:

  • Use recent, accurate photos that clearly show your face
  • Write a genuine bio that reflects your personality and interests
  • Be honest about your professional background and lifestyle
  • Keep your profile updated with current information
  • Showcase what makes you unique and interesting

Don't:

  • Use heavily filtered or misleading photos
  • Misrepresent your age, occupation, or relationship status
  • Include contact information in public profiles
  • Use someone else's photos or identity
  • Share inappropriate or offensive content

Making Connections & First Dinners

Best Practices:

  • Be clear about your intentions and expectations
  • Suggest restaurants that match both preferences and budgets
  • Confirm dinner details 24 hours in advance
  • Arrive on time or communicate if you're running late
  • Dress appropriately for the venue
  • Be present and engaged during the dinner
  • Respect boundaries and comfort levels
  • Split the bill unless otherwise agreed upon
  • Follow up within 48 hours if interested in connecting again

Dinner Etiquette:

  • Put your phone away and give your full attention
  • Be curious and ask thoughtful questions
  • Share equally in the conversation
  • Respect dietary restrictions and preferences
  • Be gracious to restaurant staff
  • Handle any awkwardness with grace and humor

Communication Standards

Positive Communication:

  • Be respectful and courteous in all messages
  • Use appropriate language and tone
  • Respond to messages within a reasonable timeframe
  • Be clear and direct about your interests or lack thereof
  • Give constructive feedback when appropriate
  • Celebrate others' successes and connections

Unacceptable Communication:

  • Harassment, threats, or intimidation of any kind
  • Discriminatory language based on race, gender, religion, etc.
  • Explicit or inappropriate sexual content
  • Spam, promotional content, or solicitation
  • Sharing private conversations or personal information
  • Aggressive or persistent messaging after being declined

Safety & Privacy

Protecting Yourself:

  • Meet in public restaurants for initial dinners
  • Tell a friend about your dinner plans
  • Trust your instincts if something feels wrong
  • Don't share financial information or passwords
  • Report suspicious behavior immediately
  • Use platform messaging until you're comfortable sharing contact info

Respecting Others' Privacy:

  • Don't share others' personal information without consent
  • Respect requests for discretion about connections
  • Don't photograph or record without permission
  • Keep private conversations confidential
  • Don't discuss other members' personal details publicly

Reservations & Cancellations

Honoring dinner reservations is fundamental to our community's trust and reputation.

Cancellation Protocol:

  • 24+ hours notice: Cancel through the platform with a brief explanation
  • Less than 24 hours: Call the restaurant and notify your dinner partner immediately
  • Emergency cancellations: Communicate as soon as possible and offer to reschedule
  • No-shows: Will result in account review and potential suspension

Repeated cancellations or no-shows may result in membership termination.

Reporting & Enforcement

When to Report:

  • Harassment, threats, or inappropriate behavior
  • Fake profiles or misrepresentation
  • No-shows without communication
  • Violation of community guidelines
  • Safety concerns about a member
  • Technical issues or suspicious activity

Our Response:

  • All reports are reviewed within 24 hours
  • We investigate thoroughly while maintaining confidentiality
  • Actions range from warnings to permanent bans
  • We provide support resources when appropriate
  • Serious violations may be reported to authorities

Report concerns through the in-app reporting system or support center.

Violations & Consequences

We take violations seriously to maintain the quality and safety of our community.

Minor Violations:

First-time profile inaccuracies, minor etiquette breaches

→ Warning and guidance

Moderate Violations:

Repeated cancellations, inappropriate messages

→ Temporary suspension (7-30 days)

Serious Violations:

Harassment, discrimination, fake profiles, no-shows

→ Permanent ban and profile removal

Criminal Activity:

Threats, stalking, fraud, illegal behavior

→ Immediate ban and law enforcement referral

Building Something Special Together

By following these guidelines, you contribute to a community where meaningful connections flourish, memorable experiences are created, and everyone feels valued and respected. Thank you for being part of the TakeMeOutToDinner community and for helping us maintain the highest standards of excellence.

Together, we're redefining connection in New York City.